10 Years ago today I was dressing on a rainy day for one of the most important days of my life.
A wedding is different. A wedding you know is going to be important. In a wedding you make the vows, no one forced me to. I took D, and he took me.
I Journeywoman take thee D
I take you my love, for what you are now, what you can be and what you will be.
To be my husband
Husband - Wife. Words that mean a sense of chosen belonging.
For better
Long sunday mornings snuggled in bed. Snowball fights. The first wine festival we went to. The race to see Jim Steinman's Over the Top at Mohegan Sun. There are still days, nights, and mornings that I look at you with such wonder. I think he can't be mine. I never did anything wonderful enough to deserve him.
For Worse
Infertility and the scars it has still left on our marriage. My horrific first publishing job and those scars, your first year of teaching. Fights about drive, about workload and about throwing the damn milk carton away instead of putting the empty one on the counter. Two people as different as we are can't seem to live together without this.
For Richer, for Poorer
I keep saying that we're waiting for richer, but when I look back we were flat broke for the first five years. We make double now what we did then. There was the years of underemployment when our health insurance went on the credit cards. We're still paying that off. But we managed.
In Sickness and in Health
There was a day when I thought I would lose you. , there was the year of bronchitis, relapse of bronchitis, two emergency room visits, and panic attacks when I worked at publishing hell job. There were high blood sugars and reactions. There were two car accidents, both minor thank goodness. There were emergency room visits that terrified us both. And the fact that we are both jerks when we are sick doesn't help much.
Forsaking all others
This line has always been a mystery to me. Forsaking all others, we wouldn't make it through without our friends. We wouldn't have. Hell we wouldn't be together without our friend L. Our parents who drive us crazy, help us in untold ways. My sibs...well they drive us insane too--and then the sibs we chose help us out.
From this day forward, Until Death do us part
I'm looking foward to the next ten years that I get to share with you. As for that last one...let's wait on the last one for a long long time.