Goodreads

  • Goodreads
    Widget_logo

Hear Us Roar

Blog powered by Typepad

« Books | Main | Watching the effing basket »

September 03, 2007

Comments

L

Huggles, sis!! You are her REAL aunt; you always were and always will be!

:)

Actually the question that started all this was if Grammy was your mom since we are sisters....

Cavatica

Oh, the Velveteen Rabbit. That will be a great adoption story!

SBird

This post made me cry. I never cry reading blogs! Thanks for sharing it.

starfish

Awesome post. As an adoptive mom, I am particularly sensitive to the "real" discussion.

trixieintransit

I've been away from your blog for a bit and then I come back to TWO ENTRIES which deal with my immediate situation. I can't tell you good it was to read them both.

I have a sister. Only 1. And she can't bring herself to have a deep emotional connection to me either...or to our brother. So when I was 20 and I met my BFF - well that was IT. She has been my sister in all the ways that you can imagine. My parents joke that she is the child they love best (no labor, no stretch marks, has 2 kids, and lives near them). I just roll my eyes. My BFF just gloats. Typical. Sisters. But we really aren't.

Her daughter is 9 and my godchild. Well technically I am not even her godmother because they don't believe in that and I am also Jewish. BUT we alternate between the title of AUNT and GODMOTHER. We also look alike. We took went out to lunch 3 weeks ago when I was visiting. The seating arrangement in the booth was (Side 1) BFF + Daughter and (Side 2) My Mom, Myself, My Dad. The waitress assumed I was the mother and BFF was the Aunt. It was sooo funny.

We corrected her.

"I am not the Mom."
"Oh so you are the Aunt."
"Yes."
"Then these must be the Grandparents."
"Nope, they are my parents."
"Huh?"

I thought we were all going to just burst with laughter. My niece/godchild was in stitches. After the patient waitress got the whole story and left, my neice/godchild said:

"You can't have this much fun with your real family. Aunt Laura (BFF's sister) never causes such a stir!"

My BFF looked at her daughter and said "That's because Aunt Laura has a different kind of relationship to you. Remember that Aunt Sheila will always love you with wild abandon because you represent her dream coming true."

My neice/godchild is very aware of the adoption and all the problems.

Her response?

"Yes. I am the baby she doesn't have yet but will some day. I will be the one to tell the baby how very much it was wanted. And I will tell the baby all about our crazy mixed up family and how perfect family can be even if it doesn't look like everyone else's idea of family."

John

The definition you want is: 2 a :
being precisely what the name implies

And to figure out if that is the case, you need to look up Aunt (From american Heritage):

NOUN: 1. a. The sister of one's father or mother. b. The wife of one's uncle. 2. Used as a form of address for an older woman, especially by children.


And:

http://www.bartleby.com/61/65/S0436500.html
NOUN: 1. A female having the same parents as another or one parent in common with another. 2. A girl or woman who shares a common ancestry, allegiance, character, or purpose with another or others, specifically: a. A kinswoman. b. A woman fellow member, as of a sorority. c. A fellow woman. d. A close woman friend or companion.

So take Real-2a with Sister-2b or Sister-2d, or Real 2a with Aunt-2. Your pick.

John

The definition you want is: 2 a :
being precisely what the name implies

And to figure out if that is the case, you need to look up Aunt (From american Heritage):

NOUN: 1. a. The sister of one's father or mother. b. The wife of one's uncle. 2. Used as a form of address for an older woman, especially by children.


And:

http://www.bartleby.com/61/65/S0436500.html
NOUN: 1. A female having the same parents as another or one parent in common with another. 2. A girl or woman who shares a common ancestry, allegiance, character, or purpose with another or others, specifically: a. A kinswoman. b. A woman fellow member, as of a sorority. c. A fellow woman. d. A close woman friend or companion.

So take Real-2a with Sister-2b or Sister-2d, or Real 2a with Aunt-2. Your pick.

John

The definition you want is: 2 a :
being precisely what the name implies

And to figure out if that is the case, you need to look up Aunt (From american Heritage):

NOUN: 1. a. The sister of one's father or mother. b. The wife of one's uncle. 2. Used as a form of address for an older woman, especially by children.


And:

http://www.bartleby.com/61/65/S0436500.html
NOUN: 1. A female having the same parents as another or one parent in common with another. 2. A girl or woman who shares a common ancestry, allegiance, character, or purpose with another or others, specifically: a. A kinswoman. b. A woman fellow member, as of a sorority. c. A fellow woman. d. A close woman friend or companion.

So take Real-2a with Sister-2b or Sister-2d, or Real 2a with Aunt-2. Your pick.

The comments to this entry are closed.