My mother in law has been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer.
It is not the "truly evil" kind, but it isn't good either. We've had to push our IVF #2 back again.
I was the one who had to tell D. His mom found out and since D can't get calls at work she called me. I wasn't going to tell him until I got home but he called me at work and told me he needed to know, he needed to know now. So I told him.
He started to cry. And I couldn't hold him. I could just listen through the phone, and I hated it.
We don't know the protocol yet. We don't know what happens next. She has another test in July and then she'll have surgery.
D isn't that close to his parents. Sometimes I blame the adoption, sometimes I blame the fact that they treat him like he's 11. Often I communicate better with his folks than he does. But I will make myself stand back and have D minister to them. They need that.
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In a total change of subject, we were watching Steel Magnolias tonight. I cut away for the part where Julia Roberts dies. I'm married to a diabetic, I don't need to see it all. I was struck though by the relationship between Claree (Olympia Dukakis) and Ouiser (Shirley McClane). They loved to push each other's buttons, they loved to snip at each other, but you saw a deep and abiding friendship and love there.
D said that was me and L in 50 years. I huffed and stuff since I don't think either of them are very nice, but I watched and I saw the friendship there.
I can only hope.
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I'm sorry. I'll be thinking of her and of you and your DH.
Posted by: OmegaMom | May 13, 2008 at 08:11 PM
Well crap. I'm so sorry. I'm sending every good vibe I have that it is treatable and that she is O.K. But crap. It sucks.
Posted by: Michelle | May 13, 2008 at 08:25 PM
so sorry about your MIL. you are all in my thoughts.
Posted by: luna | May 13, 2008 at 08:31 PM
I am so sorry about your mother. My fil was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer a few months ago and I have blogged about it.
If you want to check out my blog please be aware that, although I have
miscarried and gone through IF, I now have four children. I just don't want to send you to my blog if it will pain you.
Judy
Posted by: judy | May 14, 2008 at 05:41 PM